I struggle with my meditation practice. I go through periods, often six months at a time, when I am religious about it — sitting legs crossed first thing in the morning, for at least twenty minutes.
But, somehow, I stop. It fizzles away from my life.
I had stopped for almost two years. Then in November of last year, I read Robert’s Wright excellent book, “Why Buddhism is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment.” He comes to meditation from an evolutionary scientific perspective. I found his work refreshing, practical and motivating. …
During this past turbulent year, the coronavirus pandemic has meant that most of us have had to endure isolation. One thing has become very apparent: good friendships matter greatly in our welfare.
We have an inner need to belong and connect. Relationships are the bedrock of our emotional well-being. No matter how strong we feel we are, we need to have relationships that nurture and sustain our strength throughout our lives.
Psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, the director of an 81-year-old study on adult development, states in his famous TED talk that people with healthy relationships live much happier and longer lives…
In the 2021 Indian based American movie, White Tiger, the lead character, Balram, says,
“The greatest thing to come out of this country… is the Rooster Coop. The roosters in the coop smell the blood from above. They see the organs of their brothers…They know they’re next. Yet they do not rebel. They do not try to get out of the coop. The very same thing is done with human beings in this country.”
The Rooster Coop is a metaphor for describing how oppressed the poor are in India. …
What is Self-Awareness?
One morning, I was driving to work happily listening to a history podcast when a truck cut me off and stopped in front of me. To make things worse, the driver stuck his hand out of the window and gave me the finger.
Heat immediately surged through my body reaching the top of my temple. I was about to react when I remembered how much time and energy I had wasted the last time I did so. I took a deep breath and drove away.
At work, Tim was one of my direct reports. At…
On Fridays, I do a 30-minute HIIT (high-intensity interval training) cycling session on the Peloton. This typically involves short periods of intense exercise alternated with recovery periods. Usually, it leaves me red in the face, exhausted and feeling miserable throughout the morning.
I started to dread my Friday mornings.
Last Friday, I got up tired. I did not want to fatigue myself more as I had an important meeting that could last for a few hours. But I also had to do some exercise.
Instead of the HIIT, I decided to do a low-impact session. This meant I would cycle…
We often say someone is kind when we mean he’s nice.
A nice person is polite, smiles and pats us on the back. They are agreeable and regularly exchange pleasantries. No doubt, they make us feel good if even for a short while.
On the other hand, being kind means doing what’s best for someone. It means being objective and recognizing what’s best for them in the long run even if it’s not nice.
In treating others, we must strive to be both nice and kind. But often these two qualities conflict.
Last month, our sales team didn’t meet their…
We all assume that a wake-up call is like something we see in the movies — an inciting incident. Wall Street trader has gone bankrupt. Then, within a short timeframe, he turns his life around. He becomes rich again through a new business venture and goes on to avenge those who disparaged him. Or, a bride abandoned at the altar. She later finds the true love of her life and rejects her ex who realizes his loss and comes running back to her. Both the trader and the bride claim that their misfortune was indeed a wake-up call.
As at 2019, there were 500 million blogs. My blog is a wave in the many oceans that inhabit the universe. I’m bored with writing in a similar format as everyone else. I’m tired of writing on the common subjects that have flooded the internet.
I’ve narrowed down the subject of my writings and to whom it might interest.
Why You Should Care
If you are a mid-lifer, that is, a person aged 40+, then you’ve probably reached a stage in life where you want, above all else, to be more content and satisfied with life.
Perhaps, like me, you…
“Can it be that I have not lived as one ought?” Suddenly came into his head. “But how not so, when I’ve done everything as it should be done? — Leo Tolstoy
I was completely disillusioned with my life. I was not happy. I reached a place where even my thriving company, wonderful family and home, and great friends were not enough for me.
I thought of running away to Tibet to live as a monk. I wanted to sell my company and change countries. …
2020 is nearly over. It will be remembered because of the Coronavirus outbreak — the number of deaths that ensued, the isolation we all had to endure under lockdown rules and the wearing of face masks. Not to mention the sad death of “the hug”.
I know governments have had to be draconian to save lives, but I can’t help but feel that in becoming socially distant, we have also become emotionally distant too. …